Just in time for potentially awkward holiday gatherings, we present a holiday fave: Author and civil rights lawyer Abby Dees tells our allies go ahead, ask LGBTQ relatives or friends your burning questions. If you’re queer, she says grin and bear it, even encourage those cringe-worthy questions.
Dees believes that if asking out of love, all questions are opportunities to broaden understanding. So she wrote Queer Questions, Straight Talk: 108 frank & provocative questions it’s okay to ask your lesbian, gay or bisexual loved one. Hear a bunch of them — and how Dees handles them — on this week’s Out in the Bay.
We also hear Dar Williams’ “The Christians and the Pagans,” about the solstice-celebrating lesbian couple that drops in unexpectedly on a conservative uncle’s family on Christmas Eve. “Brings a tear every time I hear it,” says host Eric Jansen. “It’s my favorite holiday song!” Learn about Williams’ songwriting and other workshops, her books, and her new music on her website.
This episode first aired in 2013 and remains relevant today. Enjoy the dated terms and appreciate how far we’ve come!
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